If you want to know the skill in attracting the woman of your dreams, LOOK no further.
There are countless how-to guides on attraction flooding the web, yet most of them leave you none the wiser. Why? Because they are written from the opinions of men, and although I am a man what I did was documented information from talking to over 200 women and these are my findings.
I mean do guys really know what goes on inside a girl’s head? No. Of course not! It took me a while in putting these together, however I had to do it for my suffering brothers out there who would honestly like to be attracting the woman of your dreams and not allow your natural tendencies to get in the way.
So the questions was — “A woman meets a man in a bar who she’s initially attracted to, but later in the interaction she becomes disinterested…
What do you think are the 10 biggest attraction killers that men are guilty of making?”
1. Not holding eye contact / poor attention span
Not making eye contact. Staring at a woman’s chest or her other assets, looking around the room, texting or fiddling with your smart phone are all huge turnoffs. Your goal is to make a connection with the woman and that is done through eye contact and uninterrupted attention. Anything else feels dis-ingenuous. How to be a good listener
2. Too much sexual intent
Do not make sexual innuendos. Don’t make sexual comments, don’t say anything sexual, and definitely don’t touch her upon first meeting her. You are trying to develop trust and this immediately ruins it. A woman wants to feel special and not like a piece of meat. Say something complimentary about her hair, her outfit, her shoes or offer to buy her a drink.
3. Bragging & talking too much
Bragging too much and not being a good listener. Many times men try to impress too much by talking about themselves and bragging, sometimes even exaggerating the truth to impress the woman. Although it’s important to share a bit of information when meeting a woman, bragging can be a huge turnoff and most women can tell instantly when a guy is full of it.
4. Risky topics – i.e. ex-girlfriends, sex & politics
A guy who initially is interested and then morphs into the “walking wounded” talking about his last girlfriend, his ex-fiancé, his ex (or deceased) wife, and how much he misses her and what a saint she was. No woman wants to hear about the one who came before her. And no woman wants to be the rebound relationship. Come back when you’re feeling better!
5. Being too drunk
Drinking too much! When you’re out trying to pick up women or on a date keep the drinks to a minimum. “I have been hit on countless times by drunk men that smell like they took a bath in the liquor store. The slurred speech, clumsy wild behaviour and bad liquor breath are all major turn offs”, says Amanda Rose from Dating Boutique Inc.
Be yourself! Don’t try to play Mr. Too Cool. Women love a man who is genuine and doesn’t constantly try to impress her. You have a better chance if you are real and open about who you are.
6. Bad hygiene
Your Man Smell. From bad breath to bad B.O., a sensitive lady can really be turned off by your scent.
If you’ve been on the dance floor go to the bathroom and freshen up before you make your move. Also be careful with cologne. Most women prefer a clean scent to the smell of a man bathed in Old Spice. No matter how good you think it smells, use all scents in moderation.
Walk with a mint if you are not sure, better to be safe than sorry.