How do you know your relationship is over? In a general sense, most of us can agree it’s when the bad experiences with your significant other start to outweigh the good, sure relationships have their ups and down, however if you find that you are down majority of the lifespan of the relationship, you can know your relationship is over.
Still, there’s often one single moment that signifies the end of a relationship — whether or not we recognize it at the time. On relationship talk with all the persons that we talk to on a day to day basis, there are some signs that signify that a relationship is definitely over and so I will share with you.
1. Your number one source of stress is your significant other.
“Being with your partner should be something that takes away stress, but over the course the relationship, if your number one stressor is your partner, this is an indicator.”
2. You can’t see yourself being with your partner for the long haul.
“We were at a wedding I was in, and multiple times this thought passed through my mind: ‘This will never be us.’ It wasn’t even a question, it was a certainty. It was scary as hell. He noticed something was off, I eventually talked about how I was feeling, and it came out that while things were great right now, we both wanted something different down the road. We called it off and have been on great terms ever since, but damn… that moment. At a crossroads with one way leading to denial and the other leading to the terrifyingly unfamiliar.” Said Sonya Bullock, member of a singles ministry group.
3. There’s a breakdown in communication — and that’s OK with you.
When there are important things happening in your life and your partner is not the first person you want to share it with, not to mention your inner voice talking to you about things that you may fear and you cannot talk it over with your partner, it’s over.
4. You’re happier alone than with your partner.
When you are alone and feel so much better than when you both are hanging together, just sitting and watching your favourite movie and would feel anxious if he called and said he was coming by, you just felt your personal space was violated.
5. You are your partner’s sounding board — and little more.
You have these goals and dreams and when you run it by your partner all you get is criticism and put downs. Your partner is supposed to be your sounding board, your motivator, your support system, a relationship should only serve the purpose of making you better, if that is not the primary reason for being with someone, then it’s over.
6. You think about breaking up.
Whenever you both have an argument, when you are alone in the quietude of your home, when you think about your partner or you are out with friends and all you think about is breaking it off, you can know your relationship is over.
7. Your partner tries to corral you away from your family and friends.
“My mom and Partner didn’t get along. After constant nagging for about two years about how bad of a person my mother is (she is a fantastic mother and a great person), my girlfriend asked me to delete my mom off Facebook and cease communication. I literally had to have family life separate and I am a very family-orientated person. I couldn’t even think of bringing up a kid in an environment like that.” Said Johnson a good friend of mine, I literally saw the agony on his face.
8. Your partner constantly threatens to end it.
It is very sad when your partner resorts to breaking up the relationship when she is losing an argument, she is confused when you do not take her out for dinner and you literally have to be doing stuff to keep her happy or the threat of leaving and for the woman the same. Do not allow anyone to hold you hostage in your relationship.
You can know your relationship is over
“I knew we were done when realized I was no longer myself. I used to be outgoing, had lots of friends, smiled and laughed all the time. Then I moved to another country with him and wasn’t allowed to talk to my best friends because they were a friend with one of my exes. During the weekends he went out partying, while I sat at home because I didn’t want him to think I was hitting on other guys while we were out. When I realized I had been crying and fighting every day for two months straight I decided that enough was enough.” Do not allow yourself to feel like an option, once that is happening, be brave, you can know your relationship is over, just be observant to your inner voice.