The more I think about it, the more confused I get, how someone would just walk out, give you a reason for walking out, say it has nothing to do with you and leave you with the feeling of rejection that can sometimes last for many years.
It was almost 10 years ago my ex-wife marched down the Isles to the music, “A Summer Place”. It was the most beautiful scene to see her marching down to a classic and what is still my favourite piece of music. I can see her now, with that smile on her face, just very relaxed and controlled. I was a proud moment for me, the wedding went without a hitch and I was indeed the happiest man in the world.
Every time I hear that piece of music I am reminded of the day, the feelings however throughout the different stages has been interesting, now I just remember with a smile on my face.
The acceptance stage of a breakup makes all the other really tough ones worth it. This is the one that finally gives you that welcome sense of exhalation. You come to realize what the past meant and what the future can hold. The sun begins to shine, and you begin to feel like yourself again, ready to move onward and upward. I have read this so many times, thought I went through that stage just to realize that maybe Acceptance means that I will have memories of this person that I shared a significant part of my life with and there are times to come when I will go through the stages every once in a while.
The strangest thing happened, and I was taken aback when after so many years because my and I have an amicable relationship now, the question took me by surprised when she asked how it is that I never reached out for reconciliation? I have learned some invaluable lessons in life and the one that I will share is this, never go back once you are sure about the reasons for breaking were justified.
A broken relationship doesn’t always mean that you failed at it but a broken heart will in most cases contribute to a wiser you. Learn from the past, a wiser you will make for a happy future. True happiness is finding oneself–I did, I found me.