You see him at church every weekend, you see him on the bus each day before you go to work, you probably work on the same building. He takes your breath away each time you see him, but you are so over guys, they lie and cheat. What are the signs you have found a good guy? You have a checklist of things you want your man to possess and you are sticking to it this time because in the past you allowed your emotions to take over and got burnt. I maybe a guy, however not that I am asking you to throw away your checklist, no man is going to meet those standards and I have not even seen it.
What I’m going to offer you here is something a little different – a few key items that will help you determine if the guy sitting across from you on a date is a quality man who is capable of a commitment.
HIS MATURITY LEVEL
What I’m referring to here is “emotional” maturity. You can find out about this rather quickly when you meet a guy simply by observing how he reacts to things and how he treats the people around him. If you’re at a restaurant, for example, and they’re taking a bit longer to get you your table, does he take it in stride, or does he start to lose his temper? Even when people are on their best behaviour, it’s hard to hide long-standing habits, so watch what he does in a variety of situations.
You can also get a good read on his emotional maturity level by seeing how he responds to stress. Does it overwhelm him to the point that he shuts you out? Or is he able to take care of what’s going on and communicate what he needs?
HIS LIFE STAGE
An easy way to find out about this is to ask a man questions about his career. How does he feel about it? Is he excited about his job, or does he seem worn down and unmotivated?