Getting your ex back, IS not the hard part, it is keeping the person interested enough to stay around for a long time. Getting your ex to care about you again is easier than caring about yourself enough in knowing that you deserve love or even better than your experience with your ex.
When a person’s heart is broken or you break someone’s heart and after much introspection and dating others and whatever people do to move on, sometimes you do come to the realization that it really doesn’t get any better than your ex. I do understand you being sceptical about this, but with an open mind maybe I can provide information that could provide the best option in getting your ex back to the relationship even if you cheated on the relationship and was caught or was the unreasonable one in the relationship thus causing the breakup.
What I am sharing with you is a method that I have used and shared with many on http://www.relationshiptalk.net/ and it certainly worked for me and the many who have tried it.
The law of attraction states that the technique is simply reprogramming your subconscious mind to think more positively.
It is said that on average, a person will have tens of thousands of thoughts going through their minds and for almost 89% of their thoughts are negative.
According to the law of attraction, when you are thinking negative thoughts most of the time you are going to attract negative events into your life. That is the reason it is always a good idea to use affirmation to consciously input positive thoughts into your subconscious mind so that you will start attracting positive events into your life, getting your ex back may be easier than we think.
Here are a couple of tips that will definitely work for you:
Affirm yourself with positive words—your affirmation should be written in a positive format. For example, you should say “I am confident” instead of “I am not insecure”. Your subconscious mind cannot pick up ‘not’. If you keep repeating this, your subconscious mind will interpret it as “I am insecure”, which defeats the purpose of the affirmation in the first place.
Therefore always phrase your affirmation in a positive manner. Avoid using negative words.
Do not be too quick to reconnect with the ex—not because you have been in a relationship with someone the minute you realize that you made a mistake you go running to declare your undying love to this person, allow reasonable time to pass before sending a text. Expert Julie Spira says “Think about something that you shared together that might warm her heart.” Example: I was listening to the radio and heard that Coldplay song. Brought back memories of the concert together. Hope you’re doing great? If she responds, she may be open to rekindling the spark.
Slow it down in your head—not because this was someone you dated or even got married to it means you move from 0-60, so in your conversation with the person, try to relax as much as possible and say nothing to the effect of I miss you and want you back in my life and I am sorry for the fool I have been. What you are actually doing is reminding your ex of the reason you are not together and instead of it encouraging the person back is actually pushing them away.
The phone call—you are not blocked great! So you can have that conversation just to catch up on what has been happening with her for the duration of time you have not been around each other, you can slip in a I miss you whenever you hear a certain song, when you pass a certain restaurant, but choose somewhere that you remember only represented good times for both of you.
Own up—your partner is going to go there, no matter how much you do not want to remember how unreasonable you were, in fact, you may not even think you were wrong for the most part, but if you want your partner back you are going to have to own up, allow them to do the same without you bringing it up.
Use the friend group—one of the best moves is to use the friend group, so you have a group of friends that you guys would hang out with, call them up, make a date and everyone should meet up, let your partner know that the guys will be there, so you do not have to focus on each other but the memory will create a longing.
Tap into your romantic side–While chivalrous acts aren’t the most important thing, they are important. Chocolates, cards and flowers (sent to her office so all her co-workers can get green with envy) are time-honoured clichés for a reason: they kind of work. But here’s how to make it a legit, not cheesy, gesture. “Write a love letter,” says Frances. “Tell her why you love her and what it is about her that makes her completely special. It’s OK to rip off lyrics or poetry. Send the letter with flowers. Good, old-fashioned courtship works.” Check out this guide to getting your ex back. I must caution you though, if she is too far away then maybe you should reconsider chocolates, card and flowers. A message saying little is better than a note saying too much.
Getting your ex back
“I hope it did not take you too long to start the process, some persons move on quickly, sometimes straight into a rebound experience, but that is not your fault, but if you are absolutely sure this is the one after introspection, then, by all means, follow the sequence, tweak as you see fit to your situation and circumstances, but do not go too far from this or you may feel it. I think if you truly love someone and you made a mistake then it is only fair that you give yourself the best chance of making it work and if in doubt talk to an expert”.