We see them all around us, driving the latest cars, women who know how to put themselves together well, juggling home and work may appear easy to them, in fact, they are all around us and they are not going away. Many men are drawn to strong, empowered women. Few know what to expect once they manage to catch one. A confident and independent woman acts differently from others. She may want you, but she doesn’t need you. She respects your needs, but she won’t let her own be forgotten. She will not compromise her values, ambitions, and morals for anyone’s sake.
Our socialization as men is responsible for the way we think, some of us struggle to find that balance that will assist us in feeling comfortable with the change that is happening with women and this can be uncomfortable for some men.
The first thing you need to know is based on the question, how to make your woman happy that is not your role to make her happy, but you by being observant of some facts you could make a positive impact on a strong and independent woman, once you are aware of these things, your future is pretty much set.
- SHE WILL APPEAR COLD. This woman in either in or out — there’s no in between. Until she has decided that you are worth her time, she will remain icy and standoffish. Do not allow this initial response to scare you away. She already has everything she needs, why would she need you around, especially if she is not sure you can help her in being a good partner? she is hard to crack but if you are patient, you can show her how important you can be in her life, we all need someone in our corner, she is no different.
- SHE WILL NOT ASK FOR HELP. Strong, independent women would rather suffer in silence than ask someone for help. She is fiercely independent and will give the impression that she is not in need of anything. She will convince herself that she can do it on her own. When it comes to relationships, it’s hard for her to open up and say that she needs a guy, even if it’s for something as small as helping to hang up new curtains. It is hard for the strong independent woman to ask for help, always offer, do not make her have to ask.
- SHE IS NOT A TEAM PLAYER. Alpha females operate best alone. It’s what makes them so good at everything they do. It takes the independent woman a while to open up to the idea of living together, sharing spaces, and not operating solo all the time. She will go home and be comfortable in her own skin, the idea of being a couple if not on her mind and this could be because of hurt from the past, difficult experiences with the opposite sex, but that should not deter you if you find her with the qualities you are looking for.
- SHE HAS HIGH STANDARDS. If YOU are going to fit into her life, you should get ready to be subjected to impossibly high standards. She believes that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right. That applies to boyfriends too. She wants a guy to match her already perfect life. If the idea of being pushed to her is going to scare you, then she is not the woman for you, it’ll never work out. If you are not intimidated by being better and to be encouraged by your woman, a woman, then go for it.
- HOW TO MAKE YOUR WOMAN HAPPY. What is it with us and saying “I’m sorry”? You would think we were losing an arm, but saying sorry is very hard, it would appear that we are losing our “manhood” or something!Little things go a long way with a woman. For example, you could say something like, “‘I’m sorry if it seemed like I was ignoring you last night, but you know how much I love watching those Golden State Warriors boys play.” Or you could say, “I’m sorry I wasn’t in a very good mood before you left this morning, I just had a lot on my mind with everything that’s going on at work.”
Do this, even about things that may have seemed small or trivial, and you will let her know that you care about her feelings. She will love you so much, and she will be more apologetic as well. What goes around comes around. And the last thing that will always get that strong independent woman giving her heart to you without any force – LISTEN TO HER! When we humans feel heard, we soften, we relax. We come out of fight/flight/freeze. We feel safe. We open. We are now available for love, sex, and deeper layers of relating and connecting.
There are so many layers to listening to her. The more you are truly there with all of your beings, the more her flower petals open. When she opens like a flower, your love grows and your heart will expand. You will learn so much about her and her pregnancy will not seem like such a big deal when her hormones are all over the place. This is proven and tried – try it, even when it is not making sense, reassure that you understand and interestingly enough she will start listening to you.